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Cunnilingus: 4 Do’s and Don’ts to Spicing up Your Vagita

Cunnilingus, the art of oral pleasure in relation to the female genitalia. Now if you were hoping for a how to, this is not that blog. Most of us enjoy a well crafted lick or two.  Heck every so often we might even feel inspired to try a little something different. Before you run to the fridge and grab the whipped cream or the chocolate sauce, check out this quick list of do’s and dont’s. 

Do’s

  1. When selecting flavored products designed for use in sexual scenarios, make sure that they are sugar free. Read the ingredients list before you buy them, take the time to taste them beforehand as well. ‪#‎vaginatips‬ 
  2. Taste yourself: Every women has her own scent and taste. If you expect someone to enjoy it, you should know what you taste like. #vaginatips‬
  3. If you want to naturally change the flavor of your vagina, change your diet first. Try adding fruit to your lifestyle. Berries and citrus fruits can sweeten the fluids released by the mucousal lining. These fruits eaten just 2 hours before can make a palatable difference ‪#‎vaginatips‬ #pineapples
  4. Shower beforehand, and trim the hedges if that’s your thing. If you cut yourself though you may want to skip this episode of mouth to ‘mouth’ to avoid infection

Don’t

  1. Most kitchen items have no place between your sheets. Adding sugar, syrups or other food items to the vagina can lead to infection. Depending on how deeply they end up in the vagina if not properly cleaned the infection can lead to P.I.D. Your vagina may have lips but it does not like food.  #vaginatips‬
  2. Please, please, please I can not say this enough don’t wash the inside of you vag. Douching is not an option, ever, never!#vaginatips
  3. Binge on sweets (unless its fruit), sugar in excess in the diet can actually cause the vagina to taste bitter.‪#‎vaginatips‬
  4. Heard a fresh minty mouth is great for all the feels? Well don’t dive right in, wait at least 15-20 minutes after brushing, flossing or mouthwash to reduce your risk of infection. #vaginatips‬

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The Main Squeeze: The what and why of Kegels and 10 quick tips to get you started

For every woman who has ever wondered what and why, when it comes to kegel exercises here are some quick answers to your questions as well as some easy tips to get started.  

What are Kegels exercises?

Kegels are named for Dr. Arnold Kegel. In 1942 he published a study based on 18 years of research on the pc(pubococcygeal ) muscles also commonly referred to as the pelvic floor. This muscle group in particular support the organs in your pelvic area as well as the urethra, and your bowels. Kegel exercises are designed to strengthen the pc muscle group.

Why Kegel?

Kegels can help with two things of greater importance to women. The first is Urinary incontinence which is any unintentional loss of urine due to laughter, jumping, urgency or other factors.  In cruder terms peeing on yourself. Many things can lead to incontinence the two most common are child birth and ageing. For women who received an episiotomy during childbirth and the subsequent ‘Husband stitch’ are more likely to have issues with weak pc muscles as this incision can cause permanent nerve damage.   Amazingly Dr. Kegel noted that women who practiced the exercises consistently started to see some relief and change in symptoms after about 2 weeks. 

The second is the one women get most excited about, increased sexual enjoyment and Orgasms!! Stronger pc muscles increase your ability to achieve an orgasm and bonus they can also increase the intensity.  They also increase the overall satisfaction of your sexual encounters. If you were unlucky enough to have received an episiotomy during childbirth the subsequent inability or difficulty in achieving orgasm can also be positively affected by kegels.

Great! Where do I get started?

As always with any new routine it never hurts to discuss it with your healthcare professional, especially if you have any specific health concerns.

  1. If you are not certain how to kegel or where your pc muscles (pubococcygeus) are, the next time you urinate stop the flow midstream. These are the muscles you need to engage. Please note this not where or how you want to exercise these muscles this is ONLY to orient you to their action. If you try to exercise your muscles regularly while urinating you can cause yourself some serious health problems so don’t so it!!
  2. Start your new kegel regimen with around ten reps, twice a day. Squeeze as you inhale and relax as you exhale. 
  3. ‬If you are new to kegels the best position to start in is on your back with your knees bent. This helps prevent you from over strengthening the portion of the muscles that control the bowels and can lead to constipation.
  4. Kegel balls can be helpful in developing and maintaining the pc muscles. It is best to purchase a set that varies in  size. always start with the biggest ball and work your way down. 
  5. Yoni eggs just as kegel balls can provide some resistance while training your muscles. They vary in size and as with the balls start with the larger one and work your way down.
  6. If you choose to use yoni eggs make sure they have a hole drilled so that you can thread unwaxed dental floss to assist with removal. With Kegel balls look for some that have a strap for removal as well.
  7. Weighted Kegel Balls can also help build and maintain pc strength, Make sure to start with the lightest one.
  8. There are several apps that can help you create and maintain a kegel routine ‪
  9. A fun way to use your kegel weights or balls is to incorporate them into masturbation.
  10. Stronger pc muscles can also decrease the occurrence of urinary incontinence which becomes more common as women age.

Tried these tips before and still not making the progress you’d like ask your doctor if you may be a good candidate for physical therapy. A physical therapist can better guide you through the process of correct muscle activation and accurately assess your progress.

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Honey I think I lost my libido

     

So its a regular day in your bedroom,  or wherever  you might feel led to get it popping and your vaginal engine just doesn’t want to seem to get revved up or worse it doesn’t even want to start.  You just may be dealing with female sexual dysfunction…

What Is It?

FSD or Female Sexual Dysfunction comes in many forms.  Decreased or low libido is characterized as; Low Sex drive or lack of sexual desire.

You may have found yourself wondering what’s wrong with me?

Absolutely nothing.  Decreased libido is a common among women of all ages.  It is estimated that as many as 43% of all women suffer from some form of sexual dysfunction.

What Causes Decreased or low libido?

There can be a number of causes, some of the most common are:

  • Hormonal

    • Birth control pills, menopause, etc

  • Psychological/emotional

    • Depression, stress, anxiety

    • History of sexual abuse

    • Partner/Relationship problems

  • Medical

    • Certain Prescription drugs

    • Major organ failure

    • High Blood pressure

  • Social

    • Religious or societal expectations

Diagnosis

Your doctor has many tools to assess your sexual desire, but here a few questions to help you get started*:

Rate your responses on a scale of 1-6 with: 1-greater, 2-normal, 3-minimally diminished, 4-moderately diminished, 5-markedly diminished, 6-totally absent

  1. How has your interest in sex been over the past month?

  2. How has your ability to get sexually aroused or excited been over the past month?

  3. How has your ability to achieve orgasm been over the past month?

  4. How has your ability to get and maintain an erection been over the past month?

  5. How would you rate your overall sexual satisfaction over the past month?

*2 or higher on any individual question or a total of ten or more overall may be indicative of some degree of sexual dysfunction but only your doctor can provide you with a diagnosis. 


What can you do about it?

One of the first important steps is talking to your doctor. He/she can help you determine the best first steps based on the most likely cause of your decreased libido.

Some of your options for treatment include:

  • Psychotherapy-both traditional and sexual

  • Exercise

  • Massage

  • Acupuncture

  • Meditation

    • traditional or sexual

      • orgasmic or tantric

  • Supplementation

    • L-arginine

    • Maca root

    • Yohimbe

    • Compound formulations

  • Clitoral/vaginal gels or creams


What does each of these options have to offer?

Psychotherapy: Can help teach coping techniques as well as resolve past or present issues related to sexual dysfunction. May be especially helpful for victims of sexual assault, and individuals suffering from depression or other psychological disorders.  


Exercise: research has shown that regular cardiovascular exercise can potentially increase libido by increasing blood flow to the genitalia


Massage: Can decrease stress and muscle tension that may be inhibiting sexual desire.


Acupuncture: The specific mode of action is unknown but research has shown it can increase blood flow to the genitals as well as decrease stress


Meditation: A regular practice of meditation can decrease stress, and also helps train the mind to focus so that one can learn to be in the moment in sexual situations.  Tantric or orgasmic meditation may increase one’s ability to not only be present during sex but also to enjoy a deeper connection with themselves and their partner enhancing the sexual experience.


Supplementation: Research has shown that Maca, Yohimbe, and L-arginine effectively increase sexual arousal and desire in men and women. The increase blood flow to the genitals as well. In addition to these individually there are various compound formulations that contain these and other Herbs as well. Vaginal gels or creams may also be helpful by increasing blood flow directly to the clitoris and thereby increasing desire.  For women with HSV creams with L-Arginine are not recommended as they can increase chances of an outbreak.

A benefit to each of these options listed above is they are of low risk.  Before beginning any new supplementation or exercise practices please take time to confer with your physician to ensure it is safe for you based on your medical history and risk factors.